Attachment Style Parenting

The attachment style of parenting involves the very earliest stages of life, from the fetus through the toddler years. It requires commitment and dedication but the potential benefits are great.

Attachment style parenting is a highly responsive one and should be thought of as more of an approach as opposed to a formula. Every family's circumstance is different and the basic principles of this approach can be adapted to any lifestyle.

Pre-Natal Attachment The intention here is to provide as peaceful and healthy environment for your baby prior to birth as possible. Talking to the baby and playing classical music (positioned towards mom's belly) are encouraged.

Taking care of mom's health is paramount during this time. Good nutrition along with any vitamin supplements your doctor provides are the best gifts you can give your baby right now. Eat organic as much as possible and avoid household and other chemicals.

We all know that pregnancy is not always the most tranquil of times and it's important not to stress-out about stressing-out. As all parents, we can only do the best we can. Keep the goal of peace and balance in the front of your mind, not the failures or struggles.

Now's a great time to take up yoga (pre-natal routines only with doctor's or midwife's approval). Find a local group or purchase a DVD and make time for yourself each day.

Find a daily meditation that interests you. Spending at least twenty minutes in quiet meditation each day can help with many of the difficulties of pregnancy such as lowering blood pressure, improving mood swings, and reducing bad dreams.

Breastfeeding, gazing into baby's eyes, and quietly talking or singing to your newborn will provide a sense of safety and well-being. These are critical moments where your new family member is taking in information about the world they've just entered. Let's make them feel as welcome and loved as they are!

If mom is unable to participate in the infants first few hours (because of c-section or other complication) it's important to send in a replacement (dad, grand-mom, etc.). The most important thing is that the baby feels secure and loved immediately after their birth.

Try to keep the room as peaceful as possible during the first few hours. Keep the lights low, and perhaps have some classical music playing quietly. Enjoy these moments, they are sacred.

Baby Wearing

Wearing your baby in a sling or similar carrier helps to transition from the womb to their new, vast environment. Hearing your heart-beat and feeling your familiar movements will soothe your baby and help him or her feel secure.

Dad's should be encouraged to participate! Dad has been "on the outside" for nine months now and your baby can't wait to bond with him.

Continue to breastfeed as long as is appropriate for you.

For many reasons (medication needs, work schedules, physical limitations) it may not be possible to breastfeed for an extended period. However long you are able to provide this gift is perfect.

The benefits of breastfeeding your baby are many, both from a nutritional an attachment standpoint. Mom also benefits by losing her baby weight quickly (even while she gets to eat like a horse...how cool is that?!) and by the calming hormones released during let-down.

Family Bed, Co-Sleeping

Although controversial and definitely a personal decision, there is strong evidence to suggest that allowing a baby to sleep with their parents can be beneficial.

If your baby is having difficulty sleeping or staying asleep, this may be a solution to explore. For breast-feeding moms, co-sleeping will probably seem most convenient especially for the first few months.